Let's Talk About It

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Everyone thinks about it and just about everyone does it. What are we talking bout?





That's right sex. In conversation us ditzy broads had today we talked about what is the right time for a woman to have sex in a relationship? I mean the power basically is up to us but how do we manage if we are "Sexual Intellects" (according to Xilla) and don't mind getting busy on the first, second or third date? Or what if we are not as secure with ourselves and 3 months down the road in a relationship you still ain't let the cookies out the jar? When can we as women say "hey, it's bout time we got busy and handle ours", without being labeled as easy or as prudish? Cause lets face it, you give up the goods without really getting to know that person what's to say he'll still be interested in you as a person and not as a bust it baby? Or if we look at the other side of it, what man in this day and age is going to hang around for 3 months and ain't tapping nothing but his fingers on the table?

So here are the main questions:

Ladies
What would you consider enough time before you do the do, in an ideal situation?

And Fella's
Would you stick around 3months without getting none?

83 comments:

Kaliente said...

yaaaaaaaay, a sexx post!!!! LOL

"What would you consider enough time before you do the do, in an ideal situation?"

-i think it depends on the person. oddly,everyone i've been with i have knows for years(go figure) if i met someone new and i was feeling him, i would wait...but if i just wanna get off it wouldn't matter to me cuz it ain't shyt but a nut...IF THE NIGGUH CAN DO THAT!

Kaliente said...

and i wanna know who made up this 3 month rule shyt, they fukkin up the game! LOL I really wanna know if a man will stick around for 3 months also, AND if you are feeling the girl, it really shouldn't matter whether you hit it the same night or 3 weeks in. Shyt last time i checked it was normal to have sexx, we all grown right? I really wanna know why this is such a big deal!

Kaliente said...

Fellaz, where ya at???? LMMFAO

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DROCK said...

Ok, maybe after he buys you a NEW car and helps u secure a loan for your 1st house, and after he furnishes the new house and put your cable bill in his name..then I say it's a go!! Now if he gets u a USED car and pays your 1st and 2nd months rent, then takes u to RENT a CENTER for furniture and tries to put your cable bill in his mama name..girl keep him waiting!!! (ok, back to actin like Im working..,shhhhhh)

Anonymous said...

lmmfao drock is a nut yall, i forgot my comment reading her shit

Kaliente said...

LMAO @ Drock

Anonymous said...

david banner could get it on the 1st damn date.....

Bahama said...

LMAO chrissy even in his pink farmer shirt??

Anonymous said...

lmmfao naw bammy he can't get it then, he would have to just be shirtless....

504 said...

BOOOOOM !
let's see....i was such a prude in high school, i didn't get busy til i was 21 YEAH I SAID 21 & what ! but my first was someone i knew since i was 14. we dated when i was 17 on & off & we got back together when i was 20 & from that point it was 4 months after we got back together ( i initiated it ) & we stayed together for over 8 years. 2nd dude was a jump off...i met him online (YES I SAID ONLINE) & we talked a few times for about 2 weeks, came over for a visit & we only kissed but the next time i was 6 months dry & it was on & popping. my current (3rd sexual partner, yes i'm not that experienced) i've known for 5 months b4 we did the do but he's known me since i was 14 since school but i never noticed him. we weren't in a relationship when we got busy cause he was out of town, but now he's been back home & we've been together since (1 year)....so each of my situations were different & as i got older my opinions on sex has mellowed (for adults only, i still don't think you should have sex until you're ready to deal with living your life as an adult & that means working, living on your own....etc.) so my point is, if it feels right, handle yo business just slap a cap on his ass !

Anonymous said...

Notice how 504 left the door open for me (partner #2) to let me still tongue box her clitoris again...


and again




and one mo' gin!

Anonymous said...

bobble ann da hell you feel the need to turn into an after school special on us??? lmmfao luvs ya tho and i refuse to believe ya costume wearing ass has only been with 3 ppl thats a lie, and you got the wigs to prove it....

Anonymous said...

da hell???? lmmfao anon who are you?

Anonymous said...

and reading bobble's story made me realize i am a slut whore, lmmfao

504 said...

lol damn bobble, me being inexperienced should give you the indication of why i have a wig collection lol & who da hell is anny & what the fuck is his point ?

Kaliente said...

^^LMMFAO i was thinkin the same thing like WTF is that anon person! LOL he says he's #2

Anonymous said...

I do it when i damn feel like it..3days...3 months..whenever its clever. Me and my friends at home were just having this convo..im like listen..its yours..and you should be able to do with it however you feel. When you do something with someone based on how u think he will react or how u feel society will react then you have giving your cooch over to someone else. I love sex plain and simple and when i feel comfortable with someone then ima do what i love to do. I aint never been with a n*gga that left me when i gave it up "too soon" in fact my longest relationships have been with dudes ive had sex with fairly quickly. It wasnt quick for me though..i did it when i wanted to..because its my damn nappy dugout..and it worked out just fine

Anonymous said...

lmao never looked @ it like that bobble ann, i am STILL a slut tho and i feel as if i need to get some holy water throwed on me cause i done been with a few, but whats so cold is that out of all the sluts i know i am the damn prude .....lmmfao

504 said...

lol agreed notchie

Anonymous said...

PREACH NOTCH!

504 said...

bobble, i don't know how many you've been with but i wouldn't call you a whore or slut. most of my friends were getting their sexual grind on when they were 15/16 (some earlier) but i wouldn't call them whores or sluts. i didn't agree with their decisions but it wasn't mine to make. i feel like don't start crying if ya ass gets pregnant...DEAL WITH IT ! but anywhoooooo who cares, get you clit split all ya wants whenever ya want, just keeps ya hands & any part of your skin off my man ! lol

Anonymous said...

cold is that out of all the sluts i know i am the damn prude .....lmmfao
^^^^^^^ so do that make them bitches super sluts?????

Anonymous said...

ahhahhahhahh lmao that is what i am saying bobble ann i can get it whenever i want now cause i am married, and all the supersluts can keep they stank hands off my meat.....

Bahama said...

504 and notchorama put it so well, i never really looked at it that way..and i don't know that anon person,lol

Anonymous said...

i think being a slut is doing scandalous stuff..not how many people u have sex with.
So if your only had sex with two people but one happens to be your best friends man you aint a slut..versus if u slept with 15 men who were all single and ready to mingle? Society got me confused on this foolishness

Anonymous said...

i am confused too notch, lmao and if i was single my confused ass would be all over the place

Anonymous said...

i need a man to come and weigh in on this J-Nyte if you met me and i was like i am ready to give it to you, would you still respect me in the morning?

Kaliente said...

^exactly, where the men at? Only 2 out of my 5 actaully KNEW HOW TO FUKK...lol that's why i say good D is hard to find, i was talkin with my homegirls bout that shyt last night..they was like "No it's not, do it stay hard?" i was like yea they all did...and them tricks was like then they had good Dyck..i was like MAN HELL NAWL! y'all trippin!

Anonymous said...

good dick to me is a guy this is willing to please me. I have met a few with dicks bigger than my leg..and at the end of the nite im like shit..i shoulda gave myself a pedicure or sumthin. Aint nothin sexier to me then a man that asks me what i want

Bahama said...

all this dyck talk ain't good...lol

Kaliente said...

^you are so right notch...BUT i will still stand by my comment about me only having 2 good dycks in my life...LOL yea if u can work it then it's all good....

Kaliente said...

Chriss u need to post this shyt on Urban Blogger...that post would be filled with responses! Trust me they already got a debate goin on about what men want out of a woman and vice versa..lol

Kaliente said...

And BAHAMA, no this can't be good...cuz i do not have any on stand by...

Bahama said...

I was thinking bout posting this on UB, but yall know i'm lazy

Anonymous said...

hellooooooooo guy readers get ya arses in here......

Kaliente said...

LOL, you should the responses are gonna be crazy i know...it's cool though cuz there are more men on Ub that will respond

Anonymous said...

and bammy you know i have no clue bout pasting shit anywhere but here, lmao

Anonymous said...

and no more sex talk damn it i ain't had none in like 2 weeks now so boooooooooooo to dyck till friday anyway

Bahama said...

LMAO i'm on there now and they have so good dicussions going on

Anonymous said...

on UB bammy?

Anonymous said...

two weeks lord..why is that chris?
I got mine last nite...i needed an injection of the strong kind..lol

Bahama said...

yuppers chrissy

Kaliente said...

ummm it's been about 2 weeks for me also...sigh ummmm i'm back on the prowl..lol Dread done fukked up my shyt..lol i can't even do him that's out the question! *sobbing* why ME?!?!

Kaliente said...

dayum i wanna have some ol' steamy, sweaty azz passionate sexx...OMG i'm having flashbacks! see i like to kiss n shyt and u can't just kiss everybody..OMG i'm mad now..lol i need a black! i like biting n shyt..LOL

Anonymous said...

two weeks lord..why is that chris?
I got mine last nite...i needed an injection of the strong kind..lol

^^^^^cause like a dumb ass i told him he was gon' be on restriction for 2 weeks cause he didn't come home one night till like fucking 3 in the am and he took me seriously, altho i know his ass gon break b4 i do cause he got all up under me last night and i didn't do shit i just laid there, and BAM i feel a pip in my backside, it took everything in me not to flip over and sit on it, but the man has to learn.....and friday is the last day of the punishment.....can't wait....

Anonymous said...

pip=pipe

Notch said...

I stay giving rules in my head then breaking them..dammit why i gotta be such a horny bitch...lol
But you know the dick is good when u mad as hell and still cant help but give it up..lol
Ive only had two people like that in my life..what about yall?

Kaliente said...

LMMFAO, bytch u betta than me!

Anonymous said...

lmao notch i gotta stay strong tho or his ass ain't gon take me seriously damn it, and he keep messing with me his ass ain't been getting in the shower with me, and here his ass come, looking all sudsy and hot, dyck just hanging there looking gorgeous, i have to hurry up and wash my hair and get soap in my eyes on purpose so i can't see it......and last night lmmfao why i am washing the damn dishes he walk in the fraking kitchen ass out, i just left the rest of them dishes in the sink and went to bed, asshole....

504 said...

dyck just hanging there looking gorgeous,

^^^^
exact reason why i can't fool with yo crazy ass no mo' ...lmmfao !

Notch said...

lol..lol..well only a few more days chris and your good to go..lol

Bahama said...

LMMFAO @ chrissy giving hubby a rule and him trying his hardest to make her break it...wow


BOOOOOOOO to sex
BOOOOOOO to being horny
BOOOOOOOOO it all!!

Notch said...

baby b...why you boooing the love for...lol

Dont worry girlie..u gonna get someone to drop ya big booty on soon enuff..lol

Anonymous said...

lmao imma keep yall updated cause if he had his way i would be bent over a damn chair tonight screaming his name, he being a real ass bout it too sending me mofo text msgs and shit......teasing me by walking round with his firm ass out

Bahama said...

LMMFAO Notch...

Anonymous said...

dyck just hanging there looking gorgeous,

^^^^
exact reason why i can't fool with yo crazy ass no mo' ...lmmfao !



^^^^^^^^ lmmfao why i damn near went blind getting shampoo in my eyes trying NOT to look @ it,

Notch said...

LOL @ firm ass...lol..i love a nice male booty

Anonymous said...

lol notch @ this point i love anything that has anything to do with a man.....long balls and all....

why some men got them ole long ass grandaddy balls, and others look like they got one ball when they hard and ready to put it in lmao random thought i know .....

Kaliente said...

LMAO@ Notch

Kaliente said...

"why some men got them ole long ass grandaddy balls, and others look like they got one ball when they hard and ready to put it in lmao random thought i know ....."


-----------------------------FUKKIN DEAD----------------------

Notch said...

lol..lol..@ grandpa balls...
some of them be looking like the baby sack a stork carries

Anonymous said...

some of them be looking like the baby sack a stork carries
^^^^^^ ahhahhahhahh lmmfao i know notch and K look @ them balls girl, i swear some of em be killing me specially on them pronos, i be like my gawd he got more balls than he do dyck

504 said...

ok, i'm gonna stop reading these comments cause i just ate & i damn near regergitated (spell check bitches) my food trying to hold in my laughter........notch, to the corner !!!

Anonymous said...

lmmfao @ bobble throwing her food up, balls are not pretty, and yall know it...them ole hanging kind intrigue me and i bet the older a man get they just keep on dropping

Notch said...

chrissy..girl its a mess down there for some men..some of them need a bra to hold they saggy shit up i swear

Anonymous said...

lmao the saggy ones i can handle notch, its the when "i get hard i go from two testicles to one" that bugs me, why does it do that????? weird lmao it's like all the blood just rush over to that one nut and stay there till the man explode

Notch said...

oh u mean like a uniball..got yal...lol..lol

Anonymous said...

yeah notch, lmao that shit baffels me you ever see them dudes on them pornos and they have one damn ball, i am like well a min ago his ass had a full dick and balls set now he just down to a dick and one ball and that ain't a whole set

Kaliente said...

"i get hard i go from two testicles to one"

See THIS is why i don't fukk with you! OMMFG...mmmmmmm i love bare balls...LOL haha i know y'all finna be like ewwwwwwwww but shyyyyyyyyt i don't need to don king haired nigguh!

Anonymous said...

lmmfao bare balls disgust me shit ain't natural give me some big ole hairy cahoona's any day of the week a man with shaved huts make me think he gay....

Anonymous said...

You can be friends and just fuck as friends. When I graduated from college, I worked with this nice super intelligent (biggest turn on) chick was cute as hell. She doesn't think so but I think she looks just like Nia Long - just taller. We flirted all the time and went on several dates. Almost every date ended with a kiss but I worked at 4 am and she had a 1 1/2 hr commute so between being at work and trying to crash out because of work - nothing jumped off for like 11 weeks. Then we went to a cookout and got into this big debate with another couple on the Iraq war. Now I KNOW my stuff but she blew my shit out tha water and the other couple was like "Damn! Y'all work for CNN?" It was good fun but afterwards I told her how much smart women turned me on! I told her that her intellect was sexier than her (I pointed at a chick w/coochie cutters) and her (dolly parton tits) etc. We were clowning and she asked me is she sexier than the old ladies and obese women and I'm dissing her like no way! She was saying the same with me turning her on by able to debate, not get mad, and get my point across. So when we leave there I ask her does she want to come to my house and watch CNN. We still talk about us trying to blow each other's back out after waiting for so long. When one of us are real horny, we ask the other about watching CNN. It probably sounds real cornball but we'll have been married for 5 years August 1 this year. So yeah, for the right woman, I'd wait. I already did!

Anonymous said...

What are shaved huts? Small tropical houses with no roof?

Anonymous said...

lmao it was a typo anon, you know that...

Bahama said...

OOh anon that's sweet..

Anonymous said...

SHUT UP ANON!

Anonymous said...

Oh, my bad. What's the quickest you gave it up? Any regrets? Has a brother who couldn't fuck ever kept bothering you?

My first day in college, I was real hardup and this big chick (like Countess Vaughan) was playing in my dreads in our 1 pm Chemistry class. We were paired up in that corny "introduce your partner" class introduction assignment. That night, I saw her coming out of this rib place across from the gym and tell her when she gets to my room, make sure she don't have any rib sauce on her body cuz if any of that hits my tongue I'm allergic. She and her friends laugh and she asks where I'm staying. About 2 hours later, she shows up. The sex was great, convo was okay, her snoring and farting like a congested bean loving lumberjack was wack. So I KNEW that was a one time episode but she went rhino on me and talked shit to any girl who I talked with. Finally, I got this girl from the basketball team (we played on weekends) to say we went together and put this big brutus bytch in check.

8 hours from intro to bangout = 8 weeks of aggravation.

Anonymous said...

lmao anon i only said shutup cause, oh never mind, keep talking and the quickest was prolly same night never regretted it and he never stalked me the end....

Kaliente said...

"her snoring and farting like a congested bean loving lumberjack was wack"

LMMFAO..ewwwwwwwwwwww

Anonymous said...

dont pull the thang out unless u plan to bang!

some guys "stick around" and still leave after they get what they want

i just hate guys that say that tired "if she gave it to me that fast then who else did she give it to" just bein all insecure and jumpin to conclusions makin accusations without any merit, BOTH of yall were doin the do, how many other chicks did U give it up to that quick? how can u hold that against the female when u were a willing participant?

ur damned if u do and ur damned if you dont...

Anonymous said...

and now that ive read a few comments...

Bahama said...
all this dyck talk ain't good...lol

sho aint

notch, we I2I on the slut label and doin it when u damn well ready

this dude actually made me wait, it was so frustrating, i think he was just nervous cuz he really liked me or whatever he aint wanna mess up *shrugs* that shit was wack and i was mad

Anonymous said...

Would you stick around 3months without getting none?
Yes.

Jweezy said...

Since most of us are grown, I would say for females its whenever we feel like it as long as you know what your getting in to.

Just found this blog but I am loving it!

this sh!t better work..lmao